Soft Answers Build, Harsh Words Destroy

 "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." (Proverbs 15:1)

I meditated on this verse throughout the day. There were multiple moments I consciously gave soft answers. It is a discipline I'm starting to embrace. I'm not perfect at it, but I'm loving every minute of this challenge. I'm grateful for the many opportunities where I can choose to purposely give soft answers and refrain from harshness. Each of these moments is a win. 

This Proverbs 15:1 verse also prompted a few 2 major insights: 

• Every child responds to harshness in different ways. Some do not hide their anger and it's very evident how they feel. Other children hold anger within and it's not readily visible. Parents must be careful to not fool themselves into thinking that their harsh words don't affect their child just because you can't immediately see their anger shown visibly. 

• Quality time with your child comes in simple moments.  Elaborate excursions are wonderful, but daily moments of attention are impactful as well.  If I speak in soft non-critical words, if I listen when a story is told, if I give my attention to the small moments, this builds a foundation for when my kids get older. Soon, they will come to trust me and share with me bigger and more self-disclosing secrets. In due time, my listening ear will be needed.

I'm so thankful for this verse. May our words bring life. May they build up and not destroy.